Juliette Binoche, 52, On Letting Go And Living Freely

Photo via The Talks

Photo via The Talks

The Talks: Ms. Binoche, what has changed the most in your life in the last 20 years?

Juliette Binoche: What changed? I have a daughter. (Laughs) I hope a little more consciousness. I hope a little more knowledge. It is very hard for me to answer that question, I don’t know why. I know that there are some books that changed my consciousness, you know? Relationships, I don’t think I made a lot of progress in that. I had a relationship for 15 years — we stopped, we came back, we stopped, we came back — and somehow, because of that time of separation and getting back together, it helps you to be less possessive, and love in a different way. So maybe on that I made a tiny bit of progress. Life went by and I learned things, but changes? I think we’re always the same inside.

TT: You don’t think it’s possible to change fundamentally?

JB: Choices and actions are making us who we are and really confirming who we are. And I feel that I’ve mostly said yes to the things that were important to my life. But as an experienced woman you do have more stories to tell. There are different layers inside you that you can explore. There’s a freedom that is coming with age because your values are changing. You cannot hold on to the same things as before. There’s sort of a freedom and you’re more yourself. On the one hand you’re becoming more fragile and on the other hand there’s a strength that comes with it.

TT: What do you mean more fragile?

JB: Well, physically you’re changing so it makes you more fragile. Simple as that. There’s something else that’s coming. You let go of some things and you have to face other things. You have to overcome certain things; the need of power, the need of possession, the need of enjoyment – which are really the big three things that the human being has to face at a certain point. It’s challenging, it’s very challenging, but I think when you really make a decision to overcome it there’s a freedom that comes with it and it’s quite enjoyable. When you accept it, it’s like “Woooo-ahhhh! Freedom! Finally!” But you have nothing to hold on to. We all need to be reassured, don’t we? (Laughs)

TT: Have you been able to live your life freely?

JB: I’ve always found I chose quite freely what I wanted to do, yeah. At the beginning, less, of course because I needed to make a living, but life has been very helpful, you know? And you have to trust that things are coming at the right time. It’s very unnerving sometimes thinking, “Okay, I don’t know what’s going to happen next year,” especially when you have children, especially when you have bills to pay. You wonder how it’s going to be possible. And it happens that life is coming with surprises. Surprises as well as challenging yourself as well as finding solutions. So if you trust that, your commitment into life is different. You don’t feel as alone, in a way.

Interview via The Talks

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