When Will Women Be Allowed To Look Their Age?

Photo by Mickey Pallas

Photo by Mickey Pallas

"If your sense of self-value is so absolutely bound up with how you look and not with how you feel, you will never be 'worth it', whatever age you are. This is how we live now, with ordinary women comparing themselves with those whose faces and bodies are their fortunes, while these most gorgeous creatures hate themselves for ageing.

The biggest compliment you can give a woman is not 'Well done on that PhD', but: 'You don’t look your age.' This overvaluing of how we look and undervaluing of what we know, this mismatch between our insides and outsides, is a huge cause of misery right through a woman’s life-cycle, and it’s getting worse.

We can’t know what is best for us if we don’t talk about it. But the menopause remains embarrassing as it reveals the truth: we are ageing. Which is akin to dying, though is in fact the opposite of it. Where are the celebrity interviews that talk about medicating oestrogen depletion instead of the guff about good skincare regimes? Tell me, at what age can women just look the age they are? Give me less advice on avoiding all that is pleasurable, from booze to sunlight, and more on how reading actually improves memory and cognitive function. Tell middle-aged woman that their rage is not an individual problem to be feared, it’s fuel for the fire of the next stage of their lives. Nourishment means doing the things that make you feel full of yourself. That does not come in a jar. It never did." - Suzanne Moore via The Guardian